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My Dear, Kindly Get Your Ovaries Off My Rosary

Stacy Trasancos | Catholic Sistas

Oh my dear! How many times we have heard you exclaim that us tres terrible praying Catholics should get our “Rosaries off your ovaries”? You seem to imply that our prayers are going to take away your freedom to indulge in recreational sex, and so, like tyrannical children, you have decided that if you can force us to pay for your pills, devices, cannulas and scalpels, you will somehow become powerful unto yourselves. Do you honestly think that if we provide you with the ability to poison yourselves and kill your children, you will have suddenly merited dignity?

Honey, dignity can’t be co-opted, and we can’t buy it for you. You have to earn it for yourself.

Now we could play your way and just say, “Keep your bodies off our laws!” or “Keep your biology off our theology!” or “Don’t like Rosaries? Then don’t pray one!”

But come here and sit down, let’s talk. The very First Amendment to the United States Constitution, in the Bill of Rights, states that “Congress shall make no law…prohibiting the free exercise” of religion. The Constitution was written to protect our rights, those endowed, unalienable rights most fundamentally put forth in the Declaration of Independence, the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. These are good things.

Catholics can never have a doctrine that permits contraception because it destroys the full openness of love and communication between a husband and wife bound in marriage. So those ovaries of yours that hold the half that is supposed to unite with your husband’s half, in love, to create your children, belong to you. The word “zygote” comes from a Greek word that means “to join together.” Save your gametes for the man that you want to unite with to be the father of your children. And don’t ask me to violate my conscience by funding poor choices that lead to anything less – for broken souls and broken families only lead to broken societies. And I won’t do it. Kindly keep your ovaries to yourself; they do not belong to me, or to any man, or to the government.

Now let’s act like grown-ups and talk a little about your womanly power and dignity. Shall we? Let me tell you about this prayer, the Rosary, that we pray. Perhaps you’ll understand why we cannot subject it to such degrading and irresponsible behavior.

We pray for the joyful fruits of humility, love of neighbor, poverty of spirit, purity of mind and body, and for obedience to that which is greater than us. We pray for the luminous fruits of gratitude for our faith, fidelity, desire for holiness, spiritual courage, and love of our Eucharistic Lord. We pray for the sorrowful fruits, that God’s will be done, for the mortification of our senses, for the reign of Christ in our hearts, for the patient bearing of trials, and for the pardoning of our injuries. Finally, we pray for those most glorious and victorious fruits, that gift of faith and Christian hope, the gifts from the Holy Spirit of wisdom, understanding, virtue and prudence, fortitude, knowledge, piety and reverential fear of the Lord.

We will not subject this prayer to indolence because habitual laziness and sloth only keep you stupid. We will not subject this prayer to the seduction of ignorant bliss or the promise of carnal pleasure because that only turns you into a slave. The promises of contraception and abortion are the promises of falsehood, and such promises are not oriented towards freedom, justice, beauty, and dignity.

You are a woman! You have a God-given right to demand that politicians as well as your own chosen husband do not reduce you to an instrument which they can pump full of chemicals so that you are available for sexual use twenty-four hours a day, every day of your life. You – body and soul – have worth, and you are worth knowing and loving.

It’s not that we don’t care about your egg-holders, it’s that we pray for better things for them. We pray that they belong to a body and a soul that is in love with knowledge of herself and her Creator. We pray they belong to a woman who knows she is cherished by the One born of the Mother most chaste, the Virgin most powerful, the Vessel of honor, the Gate of Heaven, the Queen of peace.

Please understand that you cannot take from us what we truly own and you cannot chain us where we are truly free. We will stand strong – Rosary beads in hand and Rosary prayers on our lips – because we remain freed by Truth through the grace of God, the mercy of Christ and the courage of the Queen of Heaven and Earth. These prayers are fused in our hearts, and we do not fear things of man.

We are no man’s slave – for we belong to God.

Until our prayers are answered and you join us by turning away from that evil abyss of deceit, we hold our Rosary (sans your ovaries) in one hand, and stretch out our other in the fervent hope that you will join us on this journey in the light of truth. We’ll even get you your own strand of beads if you ask for it. We won’t let your ovaries get a hold of our Rosaries, but you are most welcome to let your hands and heart grasp one. That, dear sister, you most certainly can request of us, and if you let it – it will lead your soul out of its darkest depths and into the glory of eternal salvation.

 

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By Stacy Trasancos

Stacy Trasancos, Ph.D. is a scientist turned homemaker raising seven children with her husband in the Adirondack Mountains of New York. She is pursuing a MA in Theology at Holy Apostles College and Seminary, and she is Editor-in-Chief at Ignitum Today and Catholic Stand, and a Senior Editor at Catholic Lane. She writes about popular science, dogmatic theology, and mountain life at her website.

39 replies on “My Dear, Kindly Get Your Ovaries Off My Rosary”

Thank you for this well-written article! I am getting more and more frustrated with women who seem to think that the Catholic Church’s position will take away their ability to get contraceptives should they so choose. All it does is call into question their desire to use artificial means of birth control…and, for some reason, that makes them anxious.

When it comes to forcing me to pay for their contraceptives, I say, “Keep your ovaries out of my wallet!”

Stirring music, crescendo and a triumphant finish! This is what I heard in my mind as I was reading this powerful post…bravo and well said! Let’s keep the momentum going…

Absolutely beautiful! And, I’m learning to make rosaries also, so, that offer stands for me too – I’ll gladly make my sisters rosaries to share the joy that I have found in praying mine!

excellent article…just look at the chaos at our capital. I am frustrated because I cannot write a cogent blog about the situation but the lawyers for our president cannot present a valid argument for this and I cannot understand why women cannot see the truth before them. I suppose this is a religious topic and a spiritual battle that has probably been prophesised about, but I just love how “keep your rosaries off my ovaries” is the most intelligent argument the other side has to give. Ok, no problem…can we close these hearings now and go back to business as usual…

Hi Amanda,

Hormonal treatments to manage Endometriosis are permitted and covered by insurance already. However, these treatments only mask the condition over time and do not repair the damage done by it or cure it, as you probably already know.

See? You have nothing to be fighting against – not with us!

You would be wise, however, to challenge your doctor to seek a real cure for your painful condition rather than to continue to mask the symptoms with unnatural levels of hormones in your body.

Would you like more information?

If you want a Rosary, please email me your address! I’ll send them out ASAP.

Sincerely,
Stacy

Dearest Amanda, please read Humanae Vitae: it clearly defines “contraception” as “any action which, either in anticipation of the conjugal act [sexual intercourse], or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible”. The Catholic Church has never condemned the use of these chemicals except insofar as they are used with the intent of contraception. Their use to treat a medical condition is licit and ethical, even if sterility is a secondary consequence. What makes their use unethical is to achieve sterility as a primary goal. It’s more complicated than that (for example, is the medical benefit proportional to the consequences of the method being employed), but that’s the gist of it.

And, we will pray for you. On our rosaries.

Hi Amanda, let me assure you that we don’t take your medical condition lightly. My 30 year old daughter has suffered from this very thing herself. It is unfortunate that so many physicians today would rather put a ‘band aid’ on these symptoms instead of addressing the cause and finding a healthy, natural way to ease your pain. Fortunately there is also a network of pro-life physicians all over the country who work with a woman’s body without the carcinogenic, abortifacient Pill. They recognize that it is vital to address women’s health issues in a moral and healthy way…to remedy your issue rather than covering it up. Please go to the following website to find out more: http://www.naprotechnology.com/

My Dear, not everyone is of the Catholic faith. And that is okay. Those who are Catholic can follow their beliefs and pray for the poor souls who are not as enlightened. If you (in general) don’t want to use birth control (other than natural family planning methods, of course) or have an abortion, then don’t. Nobody minds at all if you want to pray for those who do. However, you should probably dismount off your high horse. Millions of people in this country have sex and they are not married. Shocking, I know. Not everyone fits into your (again, in general) mold of the “perfect” Catholic family. I honestly feel like people of the Catholic faith make the rest of the population feel like we are damned if we do, and damned if we don’t. We shouldn’t use birth control, but we shouldn’t have an abortion if we get pregnant. But of course, we shouldn’t have been having pre-marital sex in the first place. What DO you want? Everyone to “see the light” (convert to Catholicism)? Or at least follow what you believe? I don’t get it…

And I do have one more question. Let’s say the fetus/baby you “save” (by outlawing abortion and/or making it difficult and expensive to obtain birth control therefore resulting in a pregnancy) is gay, will you then continue to protect its rights? That’s a question that has been weighing on my mind for some time.

dear amanda,
i didn’t have endometreosis. i was “normal” in all of my tests. after having biopsies, cryogenics and hormones, my uterus was completely removed. the hormones caused my to loose my gallbladder. the doctor told me after the surgery to remove my uterus that she didn’t know what the problem was, because she had removed pink, healthy tissue. after three miscarriages, eight years of hormones, one pregnancy that ended early with a large baby in great distress and more than twenty years of wishing i could die every month while i menstrated, i was put on a pill that caused me to bleed uncontrolably for six months straight. after that i was told that a hysterectomy was the only solution.
please get a second opinion. after that, get another one. i’m not trying to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with you. i’m suggesting that you can find a doctor who can help you with it.
no matter what we’re taught, doctors don’t have all the answers.
also, if you have health insurance, your pills ARE covered when they are used as a preventative for a “real” medical problem. i know. i was able to use mine to get my “treatment.”
good luck!

Hi Amy,

We have been living in the U.S. with the “Don’t like abortion, don’t have one” mentality for nearly four decades. Contraception’s been around longer. No Catholics are running into clinics forcibly stopping abortionists from killing children. None of us are forcibly forbidding the sale of contraception.

We are entering a whole new level of religious discrimination when the federal government dictates that we must not only tolerate this in society, but even provide others with the things that we already know will harm our society.

It’s our turn to say, “Want abortion, pay for it yourself.” “Want birth control so you can have recreational sex? Pay for it yourself.”

**We shouldn’t use birth control, but we shouldn’t have an abortion if we get pregnant.**

Yep.

**But of course, we shouldn’t have been having pre-marital sex in the first place.**

Yep.

**Everyone to “see the light” (convert to Catholicism)?**

That’d be good, but it can only be done by free assent of the will.

**Let’s say the fetus/baby you “save” is gay, will you then continue to protect its rights?**

It’s not a new question. Two things: 1) We are taught to respect the dignity of all human beings and show them compassion. 2) Babies aren’t “gay.” Children need unconditional love, all of them.

If you want to know more about why contraception and abortion negatively affect your own dignity and the health of society, let us know. We sincerely welcome the dialogue. 🙂

Sometimes I wonder why those who have only to look around their own lives and own families to see the brokenness caused by casual sex, premarital sex, abortion, etc. refuse to acknowledge the pain caused by these decisions. I lived the “enlightened, modern woman” life for a full decade of my youth, having sex with anyone and everyone, and all I ever got from it was pain and emptiness. Some of my sisters end up with unplanned pregnancies, STDs, and sadly, abortions in their past. As a Catholic, I now understand that I was trading away my dignity piece by piece, allowing men to use me who did not love me or even know what that is, so that I could temporarily fill the hole in my soul that yearned for agape. Though it’s not realistic that everyone would convert to Catholicism, one has to wonder why people are so antagonistic toward the morals of the faith. From what I can see, it was the people who insisted that the highest value was recreational sex on demand who paid the highest personal price for that value, not the folks who were trying to remain chaste. I can only pray my own children don’t need to learn by experience, but can look at their peers and decide to follow the faith. Suffering in life is unavoidable, but the suffering from sin is fully avoidable.

I seriously don’t get the “would you abort a gay baby” question. Pro-life people in general and Catholics specifically oppose aborting a baby for any reason and they are particularly horrified by the abortion of babies found “imperfect” in genetic screenings. To kill children because they have Down Syndrome, Spina Bifida, Hydroencephaly or any other kind of developmental issue strikes us as a direct affront to the dignity of human life and to Christ’s call to care for “the least of these”. So WHY would you ever, ever think that ANY Catholic in obedience to the Church would suddenly do a 180 on that position if a baby were found to be gay in the womb. I’d worry more about pro-choice people aborting gay babies (if such a thing existed), since they are the ones who accept abortion for any reason such as the baby being the wrong sex (*ahem* family balancing?) Or there being twins and triplets when only one was wanted, or the baby having a cleft palate, or not wanting to be pregnant through the summer.

Tell me???? When did we start having gay babies?? Show me the science in that statement.

I think Amy’s point was not that the baby would be gay but that the baby may grow up someday and decide to live the gay lifestyle. I believe her question was if we defended that baby’s right to live when it was still unborn, would we continue to defend that baby’s (now adult) “right” to live his life in any way he wanted by supporting the gay community’s political agenda. Not sure when “living your life in any way you choose” became a “right” but I do believe that was Amy’s question.

Thank you Sarah!

I have older children and I know they don’t always listen to your (oh so wise!!!) motherly advice.

Everyone has a right to life and liberty.
Everyone has a right to pursue happiness.

And everyone has a responsibility that comes with those freedoms. The right to pursue happiness is not the right to live any way you choose without reproach. I’ve found that it works best to speak the truth, but in love. Without compromise. Because eventually the adult child will realize that truth is what sets him/her free.

Hey there ladies! This article really cut me to the core, and I commend you for writing it. I’m a 22-year-old “pre-Catholic” who recently started praying the Rosary, and it’s brought me so much closer to Christ. Not only that, it has helped me to discover our beautiful Blessed Mother and, in turn, my own femininity through her. Hiding in my heart for the past few weeks has been the fact that I used to take birth control while being sexually active. Neither of these things happen anymore, but the possibility of having aborted a child without knowing it has been knocking on the door of my heart. This article finally released it for me. I’ve made an Act of Contrition to begin the healing process of what I have done, whether I caused the death of a child or not (only God knows…) I await the day that I can finally make my First Confession and release my pain to the Lord. Thank you, thank you for what you have done for me! God bless you all.

Oh Emily, I have been in exactly the same place! I remember the first time I prayed the Rosary. I took birth control for years before I converted too and I know the horror of realizing what it was and the (for me) anger of feeling betrayed by society. OH! But God loves you and He is infinitely merciful. Absolution is complete when you sincerely go to Confession, a perfectly loving God would offer no less! And until you can get there, God knows you desire it. Christ, the Son of God become man died for us all because He loves us that much. Welcome home sister. The Rosary is like a big hug from Mary as she holds us and teaches us about her Son.

There are some wonderful women with all kinds of stories at this website. I hope you’ll visit us often and let us know if we can do anything for you…answer questions, offer support, say a prayer.

Peace in Christ,
Stacy

Emily – thank you for sharing how this post touched you! I’m thrilled that you’ve found the joy of the Rosary. Mary is a wonderful comforter. We Catholics love seeing someone coming home and finding the depth of love we have found!! You’ll be in my prayers as you prepare to enter the Church!!

Emily, All I can say is “ditto”! My daughters are 26,24, and 22 years old – all beautiful Catholics who have taught me many things about my own faith. We have just celebrated my future son-in-law’s baptism, first communion, and confirmation during Easter Vigil and I pray that you will soon experience that same joy! There is something very special about our relationship with Mary – the Mother of us all through Christ. As the slogan on my daughter’s t-shirt once read “Mary is my home-girl” – simple, but true. Take care and God Bless!

Hi Stacy, and Everyone;

I am not affiliated with any organized religion for a whole host of reasons, but I was baptized Catholic. I’m glad I came across this article, however, because it helps me understand other points of view. I do have a few comments. “Keep your rosaries off your ovaries,” however crude, is catchy, and lets everyone know right away that the Catholic church and women’s rights are involved immediately. When you say, “You seem to imply that our prayers are going to take away your freedom to indulge in recreational sex…”, you are correct in assuming this is implied, for the Catholic church has had this annoying habit of working it’s way into political matters, when our country is predominantly (more than 50%) protestant, and more than 20% non-Christians (including other religions like Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, etc. as well as atheists/ agnostics).

I also do not think that forcing anyone to fund anyone else’s health care, which is one of the arguments about the unconstitutionality of the Obama Care bill. While we’re on the subject of constitutionality, you are correct in what the constitution says, but in 1947 the Supreme Court did rule that the clause against establishment of religion by law was intended to erect a wall of separation between church and state, and that the two should not interfere with one another. This, of course, has been hard to do (seeing as how much money the Catholic church has – but I won’t get into how), and so the Supreme Court often rules on where exactly the two cannot cross paths. The Supreme Courts members, coincidentally, are all currently Catholics and Jews. One more thing on this: James Madison, the guy responsible for much of the constitution, said that the constitution should be updated every 15 years/ as needed, as that was customary of many countries at the time. There are currently debates about why we STILL have the SAME constitution. Many countries do not look to the U.S. to set the example anymore, but to Canada and Australia.

Now for when you say, “for broken souls and broken families only lead to broken societies.” This makes me think that maybe everyone SHOULD fun health care, because of the “broken families part.” There are women that have way too many children, and who can’t afford them. They get help from the federal government, from the state, etc. You’re funding THOSE women and families, for MUCH longer than the simple cost of abortion or birth control. There are also women who abuse this system. Of course, I understand that a simple financial burden is much different than your moral obligation to yourself and your god, but it’s something to think about. I like the point where you say that my ovaries do not belong to you, or any man (or other woman) or to the government. What I’m saying here is that the decision should not be a political one made by men – it should be between a woman and her physician. If a doctor does not believe in abortions, s/he does not have to perform one. A doctor’s is a private business in America, after all.

I do understand that the Rosaries themselves are not to blame, nor are your prayers. Again, it’s a catchy slogan (though offensive) relating to Catholicism. Do you not believe in any form of contraception, then – no abortion, obviously, but no condoms or “the pill” or vaginal rings, etc.? Also, is it Catholic belief that sexual activities are only for those who are prepared and are trying to have a child, and not for enjoyment purposes? It seems this is not the case because I know many Catholic (and Mormon – who have similar beliefs to Catholics) families who have a large number of families due (I am guessing here) to the fact that they do not believe in contraception. I am not trying to be offensive here, just trying to understand.

Thanks again for writing this,

Brittany

P.S. What is your Ph.D. in?

Hi Brittany,

~~~the Catholic church has had this annoying habit of working it’s way into political matters~~~

We think of it more as proposing rather than imposing, but we have as much right as anyone else to organize, advocate and vote. I know others outside the Church see it differently. How can I help you understand that it’s more like a mother, the Holy Mother, trying to guide her children, even if they won’t listen. Take any moral issue, remembering that mankind has developed morally, and the Church was leading. The Church declared capital punishment of prisoners was wrong long before human society did. Even the US is still behind on that one. You can challenge us on other topics too, but please make sure they are in reference to actual Church doctrine and not the gravely sinful actions of individuals.

~~~I also do not think that forcing anyone to fund anyone else’s health care, which is one of the arguments about the unconstitutionality of the Obama Care bill.~~~

The Supreme Court will decide, but the issue is about being forced to provide or buy insurance dictated by the government. This should remain a contract between individuals and we should be free to choose what we buy from whom.

~~~in 1947 the Supreme Court did rule that the clause against establishment of religion by law was intended to erect a wall of separation between church and state~~~

This is a fascinating area to study, and justices even then were split. We will see this understanding evolve in our lifetime I think. The question I’d put to, Brittany, is do you really think the two can be totally separate. Catholic teaching actually cannot see it that way, as I’ve understood from my reading. God’s laws, which are good laws that lead us to justice and peace, are above man’s laws, and if we want a just society we need to strive to follow God’s laws.

Think of it like this too. If no one practices virtue, are any of us really free? Now imagine you are walking down a street in a bad neighborhood late at night alone. Are you free?

~~~James Madison, the guy responsible for much of the constitution, said that the constitution should be updated every 15 years~~~

Ah, I’m no history buff (that’s my dh) but I have read some of the Federalist Papers. Can you cite your source for Madison’s comment? It’s not that I don’t believe you, it’s just that I’m not sure where to find it so I can read it.

~~~Many countries do not look to the U.S. to set the example anymore, but to Canada and Australia.~~~

I don’t know, but I will agree that the U.S. can do better.

~~~This makes me think that maybe everyone SHOULD fun health care, because of the “broken families part.”~~~

Catholics are absolutely taught that our economic systems should be just and that we should care for the poor. I agree that we need reform of health care, just not the way Obamacare is doing it. It will only produce more poor people.

~~~You’re funding THOSE women and families, for MUCH longer than the simple cost of abortion or birth control.~~~

The point to REAL help is that they don’t take without ever giving back. Welfare isn’t supposed to be the family business, and there’s nothing unloving about believing in women to be all they can be.

~~~There are also women who abuse this system.~~~

The system makes it too easy.

~~~What I’m saying here is that the decision should not be a political one made by men – it should be between a woman and her physician.~~~

I will push you here. There are people who advocate for infanticide for the same reasons. You understand why that should not be a *decision* between doctor and mother, right? It’s the same for abortion.

~~~If a doctor does not believe in abortions, s/he does not have to perform one. A doctor’s is a private business in America, after all.~~~

Not with Obamacare. Doctors will be forced to violate their consciences. It already happens. That’s part of what this fight is about.

~~~Do you not believe in any form of contraception, then – no abortion, obviously, but no condoms or “the pill” or vaginal rings, etc.?~~~

Short answer, no. Children are gifts, marriage is about total communication, total openness. Contraception shuts off that communication. I can say a LOT more about that, and will possibly write you a post on it. I’m a convert, this is one struggle I had so I understand your questions and would like the chance to answer them.

~~~I am not trying to be offensive here, just trying to understand.~~~

I know, and I appreciate it. Stick around. Ask anything! We’re women and you know women LOVE to talk about this stuff. 😀

Thanks Brittany. I was a chemist for DuPont. If you love your Lycra products, you can thank me in a small, teeny-tiny way! I have actually sat in board rooms while men passed around panty hose and underwear feeling of the way it stretched. Kind of embarrassing. 🙁

I cook and clean now with a passion.

Thank you for your post! I stumbled upon it since I’m looking into NFP. My husband and I are newly weds, I’m catholic and he’s methodist although he willingly comes to mass with me every week. 🙂 I used to (and still somewhat do) have that “my uterus, my business” attitude on the contraceptive teachings of the church, mainly because it never really applied to me but now that I’m married I know I owe it to the church to at least learn more about its teaching. We’re both currently in medical school so we want to wait until we’re both more stable in order to welcome children. We’re using birth control but he is extremely supportive in possibly considering NFP. Were both praying for better understanding and reading your post did nudge me a little towards acceptance of the Church’s teaching. I keep thinking it just wants me to turn into a baby machine, but it just wants what’s in best interest for me and so does God. Hopefully when/if I embrace it, I’ll be as wiling to speak up about it as bravely as you. Thank you!

P.S @Misty- the “modern enlightened woman” is someone who is intelligent, respectful, diligent, ambitious, strong minded, and strong willed. What you describe as “someone who sleeps with anyone and everyone” is simply called a skank. Real “modern, enlightened women” know the difference.

Hi Patricia! Congrats on the new marriage!! I am a convert who became Catholic 3 years ago and when my husband and I became Catholic we were both sterlized. After much prayer and learning about the Church’s teachings on the issues of birth control and sterilization we decided to get reversals. It was not easy and it was a lot like what you are talking about, just learning and seeing that it’s about what God says is in our best interest. Here is our story if you would like to read it, maybe it will help. God Bless! And it’s sounds like you have a great start to a good marriage. 🙂

http://theramblingsofacrazyface.wordpress.com/2012/08/02/this-is-my-body/

Patricia,

Welcome to the adventure that is marriage! From the fact that you even go to Mass regularly, I’d say that’s already a good sign. I’m glad to hear you’re interested in thinking more about the Church’s teaching on contraception and NFP.

I’ve written a bit on my blog about this, but here are two particularly useful posts.

First, some wisdom from Venerable Fulton Sheen on the subject of birth control:
http://lukearredondo.blogspot.com/2012/07/fulton-sheen-and-nfp-awareness-week.html

Second, a brief discussion about birth control’s effect on society from a more obscure author:
http://lukearredondo.blogspot.com/2011/09/mississippi-amendment-26-part-iii.html

If you would like to discuss the issue more, and in particular if you’re looking for more info about Humanae Vitae, I Highly recommend Janet Smith’s Contraception: Why Not?:
http://www.mycatholicfaith.org/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=147

Peace,

Luke

Thank you for your encouragement! I read Janet Smith but I really did not agree with her because she generalizes women too much. I felt she was just giving me 100 reasons why I should be a stay at home mom! But I do feel a bit more moved by the testimonies of people who have come to embrace NFP, I guess since it’s more indirect and talks about how much better they are with God and His will in the personal lives of his children rather than simply reprimanding contraception. I love the Church and although I do not think it should change its teachings, I feel it should modernize a bit on the WAY it teaches them. In my marriage class, having a priest telling us to have any and as many children as possible, an NFP teacher cheerfully coming to us saying “NFP works!…by the way, I have 14 kids!” wasn’t exactly reassuring to a room full of young, financially unstable, career starting couples. I (like many of them) raised an eyebrow and told myself this would be the last time I hear about this, but instead I felt it in my heart to take responsibility in finding a way that would help me understand it. I only pray for help in doing so and for others that are also struggling with this. Thank you for your help!

on post March 28 1:22 pm … “But of course, we shouldn’t have been having pre-marital sex in the first place” answers the ‘keep your rosaries off my ovaries’ statement in that rosaries are of your religion and the idea of premarital sex and marriage is a social construct created by religion…as is homosexuality as a sin.

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