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Seven ways to build a culture of life

Respect LifeIt’s October, and that means that Respect Life Month is once again upon us. This is a time for us to be extra mindful of the ways in which the dignity of human life is being violated in our culture, and to increase our pro-life efforts. Pro-choice people often accuse pro-life people of being hypocritical – of only paying lip service to “respect for life,” but not really living it out. While this accusation is way off-base, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we are doing our part in building a culture of life just by sharing articles and memes on Facebook, or debating life issues with pro-choicers. But being pro-life (just like being Catholic) is about more than what we intellectually hold true and defend with our words. It’s very much about how we live, every day of our lives.

If we were to believe the “other side,” then the only way we truly could “walk the walk” of being pro-life would be to personally adopt all the babies who otherwise would be aborted, or the older children currently in the foster care system (like this amazing hero*). Of course adoption is an incredibly loving act, but it’s not possible for everyone. For the vast majority of us who will never be able to adopt a child into our family, there are many other ways that we can and should be living out our pro-life ideals. This list gives ideas that go beyond what most people typically think of as “pro-life activities,” like standing outside abortion clinics and lobbying our elected officials.

  1. Prayer – This seem obvious, but I often forget. We need to pray for an end to abortion, and for the victims/potential victims of abortion (not just the babies, but the siblings, parents, grandparents, friends, healthcare workers, etc. who are harmed by abortion – even, and especially, those who know the truth about abortion and still participate in it anyway). Every once in a while, I see a meme circulating on Facebook that says “Have you prayed about it as much as you’ve talked about it?” In this culture where we have constant opportunity to share our thoughts with others via electronic media, I think most of us tend to spend too much time talking about important issues and not enough time praying about them. In most cases, an internet debate with a stranger is not going to change anyone’s mind or heart. Prayer, on the other hand, is a very powerful weapon in our battle against the culture of death!
  2. Reaching out to mothers who are overwhelmed or lacking in resources – The accusation that pro-life people do not care about babies (or their mothers) once they are born is untrue. But we have to ask ourselves whether on an individual level we are doing enough to support mothers who brought children into the world in difficult circumstances, or whose situations could tempt them to say “no” to God’s gift of life in the future. Are there mothers in our lives who could use free babysitters, playdates, or just an ear to listen to them? Can we donate money or time to organizations that provide clothing, diapers, and even housing to mothers in need? Can we start an organization like this if there is an unmet need for one in our area? On a simpler lever, we can make a big difference in the lives of others just by offering a smile and “can I help you with anything?” when we see someone struggling with their kids in public.
  3. Treating children like we really believe they are blessings – Let’s start with how we talk about children. I get it; motherhood is hard. Kids can be annoying. The days can seem never-ending. The stress and the sleep-deprivation can make us feel like we are at the end of our ropes. There is a strong temptation to complain (publicly, and incessantly) about our children and all the difficulties that come along with raising them. However, talking about children as if they are burdens weakens our message that they are precious gifts from God, and can make us actually lose sight of the truth of that message.

We also need to be careful about how we are parenting in general. Some people might say that only “x” or “y” parenting style is a truly respectful way to treat our children. I’m not going to burden anyone’s conscience by speaking in absolutes about parenting techniques; but, we do need to ask ourselves if the way we interact with our children is in keeping with their dignity and value. Do we deal with them in a way that builds them up, or in a way that tears them down? Do we imitate the love that God the Father has for us, which is unconditional and ever-merciful, or do we remove our love when our children disappoint us? Will our children grow up knowing that it is good that they exist—that all lives are inherently valuable—or will they feel like they have been a burden? I’m no saint in this department; I fail multiple times a day at treating my children as the precious blessings that they are. But when I do, I always try to apologize and start fresh.

  1. Being respectful toward people with whom we disagree – Personally, I tend to get worked up when I’m discussing certain issues with people. Sometimes during internet debates, I feel like I have to hold myself back from typing a string of insults in capital letters. But I don’t think saying, “ALL HUMAN LIFE MUST BE RESPECTED, YOU STUPID [EXPLETIVE, EXPLETIVE]!!!” is the way to go. Not only would it be wrong, but it would also be terribly ironic and hypocritical. We do not help our cause when we violate the dignity of others through our angry words. This applies doubly to insulting unwed mothers or women who have had abortions (especially by calling them words like “slut” or “baby killer”). If we truly do care about both mothers and babies, we can’t disparage the mothers. Please note, we negate any good work we could be doing by showing up outside an abortion clinic if we are not extremely gentle with the women going in.
  2. Protecting the reputation of others – It may seem odd to connect this with being “pro-life,” but spreading gossip about others is a sin against their dignity, and some examinations of conscience even list the sins of detraction (unnecessarily sharing the faults of others) and calumny (speaking untrue things about others) under violations of the Fifth Commandment.

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6. Reaching out to the aged, infirm, and imprisoned – We know that being pro-life is not just about babies. The elderly and ill are particularly under attack in our culture of death as well. And while we are using the Death Penalty less and less, we often still look at and treat prisoners as less-than-human. We can affirm the dignity of people in these groups by doing things such as visiting nursing homes, hospitals, and jails (parishes often have specific ministries for these activities), or writing letters/making cards (or having our children make cards – who doesn’t love the sweet drawings and handwriting of a child?). These things offer hope to those who are in situations that often seem hopeless, by telling them that someone values them, even if our society doesn’t.

7. Donating blood – I’ve never given blood, but today I read this incredible story about a man* whose blood has saved millions of babies (literally) and I was inspired to mention it here. Donating organs is also a heroically pro-life act, as long as it is done ethically.**

 This was by no means an exhaustive list of the ways that we can live out on a daily basis our belief in the dignity of all human beings. Any time we treat others with the virtue of charity (which is always grounded in Truth, not in relativism), we are behaving in a “pro-life” manner. And we are showing them the face of the One in whose image they were made and from whom they derive their worth and dignity.

 

 

 

*I have no idea if the men in these stories would identify as “pro-life” or not – but their actions definitely fall under that category.

**For some information on ethical questions about organ donation, go herehere, and here.

By Mary

Mary is a lifelong Catholic, a wife to an incredible man, and a homeschooling mother of two girls and two boys. She loves studying theology and apologetics and is very passionate about our beautiful Faith.

4 replies on “Seven ways to build a culture of life”

Thank you for this post! I belonged to a pro – life group at church but had to step back because their meeting schedule did not work well for our family. I was really disappointed. It is so nice to hear of other ways to live out the pro Life message. Thank you!

What a great list! You are right, it’s so easy to say “I’m pro-life” but our actions have to back that up, too. #3 really struck me – it’s wonderful to sidewalk counsel and pray at clinics, but we’re not really living out our pro-life mission if we aren’t treating our own children with dignity.

Are there seriously people who call themselves pro-life who go around calling unwed mothers terms like “slut” or woemn who have had abortions (almost invariably under extreme pressure from others, mostly men) “baby-killer”? I’ve certainly never heard of this in Australia and I find it hard to believe it happens even in the USA.

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