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Celebrating Twenty-four Years

Today is our 24th wedding anniversary. Allow me to share some of that story with you, Sistas!

We met at the Evangelical Covenant Church of Riverside, RI when I was 19 and Ken was 21. We had both attended this church as teenagers, moved away due to college and military service, then returned. Since I was then commuting locally and Ken’s ship was in port, we were in church together.

005We jumped back into youth activities as helpers, which was a good excuse to continue to hang out with the youth group and our beloved youth pastor and wife. We double-dated (not each other; we each had other dates!) until all the other dates fizzled and it was just us. We poked all around southeastern New England together, from restaurants, beach grills, and concerts to hiking trails, rappelling mountains, and sledding hills. Motorcycle rides, too! For my twentieth birthday, he cooked dinner, complete with candles, music, and rooftop dancing. We had the Serious Relationship Talk. Six months later, he proposed–while we were canoeing, of course. It was tricky to properly cry and laugh and shriek YES! in a tipsy canoe but I somehow managed.

Our wedding was perfect and wholly a gift of our church. One lady made my gown; one gentleman took the photographs; one lady asked me what I wanted for the reception and it magically appeared in the church gymnasium. When we met with the music director and told him we wanted a congregational hymn, All Creatures of Our God and King, he told us that he’d previously written a bridal procession using Lasst uns erfreuen (the tune to that song) and were we were interested in hearing it? It was grand and beautiful and we did indeed use it.

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We were told that we were too young, too uneducated, too poor, t00 you-name-it to get married. That we should “see the world” before settling down. But we had no intention of settling down! After our honeymoon weekend on Cape Cod, we took off with $1,500 and our loaded-down Renault across the U.S. and Canada, all the way to Alaska just for fun. (We moved to and from the Last Frontier a few times but that’s another story.). We stopped to visit and hike such places as Mt. Rushmore, the Badlands, Grand Teton, Banff, and Liard Hot Springs. Niagara Falls’ spray completely ruined my makeup. We marveled at the spider web of traffic around Chicago and the endless wheat fields of Saskatchewan. I thought we were going to be poisoned and die from Yellowstone’s mosquitoes. On more than one occasion, Ken had to bungee my backpack onto his because my (whine, whine) shoulders hurt.

So we began our marriage seeing the world and adventuring–together. We continue to see the world and do things a little differently, but always adventurously, and sometimes rebelliously. But always together.

After we were pronounced husband and wife, our pastor of many years had us kneel while he raised his hands over us and prayed these words that I now sing to our children at night:

Ken and Allison,
May the Lord bless you and keep you;
May the Lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you;
May the Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace (Numbers 6: 24-26).

And He has. For 24 years and hopefully for 24 more and 24 more, according to His pleasure.

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About Allison H.

Allison is a 40-something mother of seven, living in Alaska, accepted into the Church (together with her husband, thank God) in 2004. She spends her days homeschooling and packaging meat that her menfolk hunt and bring home. She cannot garden to save her life but picks wild blueberries like a champ. She has been published in an edition of Chicken Soup for the Soul and keeps a blog at www.northerncffamily.blogspot.com, writing about living out the Faith with children with cystic fibrosis.

  • Patti Champion - I CAN’T TELL IF MY ORIGINAL COMMENT WENT THROUGH,SO I AM RESENDING THIS:
    Happy Anniversary Allison! (Today, June 9th, is also our anniversary…25 years! Woo hoo!)

    Greetings from Alabama to Alaska! (My hubby and son love the TV show “Alaska: The Last Frontier”, by the way! They also love to hunt and fish like your guys.)

    I love your story here “FROM CHRISTIAN CONFUSION TO CATHOLIC CLARITY”. I would love to share it with some of my non-Catholic friends…but I dare not for fear of offending. I will keep praying and asking the Holy Spirit to wisdom, guidance and courage to some of our dear friends. Thanks so much for sharing..it is truly beautiful and miraculous!

    I pray that you and your dear hubby are having a wonderful anniversary today.

    God bless you and your family, Patti Champion

    P.S. John Martignoni is a friend of mine and he lives here in the Birmingham diocese. He was raised Catholic, but drifted away. Later, he began researching the Catholic faith, and became convinced that the Church had the complete Truths! He then returned with a “holy vengeance” :). John, if you’re reading this, and I’m not completely accurate…please correct me…June 9, 2014 – 3:10 pmReplyCancel

  • Allison - Hello Patti,

    Happy Anniversary to you! So glad you wrote here (and there).

    I only share our conversion story if someone asks why in the world did we become Catholic?! It seems the gentlest way, like you say, from the Holy Spirit’s nudging. When a few people have asked in person, I’ve gotten very excited (maybe overly!) and talked very fast, like if I didn’t get it all the important points that they wouldn’t convert. But it took us 2 years, so I had to learn to chill out a bit (again, thank you Holy Spirit!).

    If you guys ever visit Alaska, shoot me an e-mail. Tell your husband and sons that Ken and our biggest boys are going dip-netting for salmon in the Copper River this weekend! He says that he doesn’t like to fish, he likes to catch, so he hangs off a cliff at the edge of a raging river with a 6-foot long net on a pole and yanks these things out of the water. But we’re down to our final few fish from last year so it’s time. The reds are running!

    Nice to meet you here; we’ll pray for you and your friends in our morning prayertime. Have a great day!
    Love, AllisonJune 10, 2014 – 9:10 amReplyCancel

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