Commanded to Love Mary

As Catholics, we wholly love our triune God, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.  Every day  we attend mass we literally sit at the feet of our Lord Jesus, mystically united in time to the moment He gave His life for us on the cross.  Before the altar of the most Blessed Sacrament we are privileged to worship Him, thank Him, love Him, and depend on Him.  We are beside everyone that has ever attended the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, beside all of the angels, beside all of the saints, and beside everyone who was at the foot of His cross at Golgotha…  we are beside His Mother, Mary.

Jesus’s life was bookended with Mother Mary, she was present at His birth, and at His death.  Before God sent us our Savior, He first created the vessel by which that Savior would come.  Instead of celebrating Christmas each year, we could be celebrating the Descension of Jesus, or some other event by which God sent our Savior.  God’s plans are always perfect and always have more meaning than we can ever humanly fathom.  In all of His infinite wisdom and in His love for us, God included a mere human in His plan for our salvation.  Our Father gave Himself a human mother.

In the book of John it is recorded that during the Last Supper Jesus reminded his disciples, “If you love me you will keep my commandments.” In fact, He mentioned keeping the commandments many times.  The first three commandments all deal with how we are to have a relationship with our Lord.  Then, surprisingly, the fourth commandment, listed before don’t kill, don’t steal, don’t bear false witness… is to honor your father and mother.  This particular commandment is oddly out of place between the first three dictating proper worship of our Lord God and the latter six thou shall nots.  It must be important.

Jesus entrusts his mother to his disciple John.

We are commanded to honor our father and mother.  We are also called to follow Jesus as our example of Christian living.  Jesus lived a life perfectly without sin, He upheld every one of the ten commandments, daily.  He perfectly honored both His Father, our Lord God, and His Mother, Mary.  Isn’t it interesting that God created a commandment to honor our father and mother, then when He came down to Earth He provided Himself a mother which allowed Him to perfectly fulfill the fourth commandment?  In His plan for our salvation, God submitted Himself to honoring a human.  Jesus showed us how to perfectly follow the first commandment and all the while have the most perfect honor for His mother with the fourth commandment. At the wedding feast at Cana, Jesus performed His first miracle at the behest of Mother Mary (John 2), and while hanging on the cross He made sure not to expire before arranging proper care for her (John 19).  He did not shy away from loving His mother out of fear of offending His Father.  He did not ignore His mother or feel indifferent toward her.  Jesus was still submitting Himself to honoring His mother while dying to provide us eternal life, that is how important she is to Him.  He wholly and perfectly loves His mother out of His love for His Father.

So, how is your relationship with Mary?  Do you forget she’s even there?  Imagine a family in which, day after day, the children lovingly flock to the father while it is as if their adoring mother is not even in the room.  Imagine the pain God must feel when day after day we ignore or even actively reject the Mother He gave Himself, the Mother that He loves with a child-like love, the Mother that He commands us to love.  Your relationship with Mother Mary should be a proportionate indicator of your love for Our Father.

Don’t know how to begin a relationship with Our Lady?  Pray for God to assist you in beginning a relationship with His Mother.  Remember to talk with Mary at mass, as she is there beside you, at the foot of Her Son’s holy cross.  Ask for her prayers.  Ask her to pray for you to have a devotion to the Father like the devotion she is privileged to have.  Ask both Our Lady and Our Father for forgiveness for not including her in your life the way we are commanded to.

Hail Mary, full of Grace, the Lord is with you.  Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.  Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.  Amen.

Please share about your relationship with Our Lord’s most blessed Mother!

  • EmilyAugust 26, 2011 - 2:18 pm

    Wow… BEAUTIFUL perspective – I had really never thought through that logic. Really, really beautiful post, Adrienne… thank you!ReplyCancel

  • BrittanyAugust 26, 2011 - 3:47 pm

    Beautiful Adrienne 🙂ReplyCancel

  • MIchelleAugust 26, 2011 - 6:29 pm

    This is simply beautiful Adrienne! Thank you for reminding us of how important our amazing mother truly is!ReplyCancel

  • Susan C.August 26, 2011 - 6:49 pm

    That was an amazing post Adrienne. So much that many of us (myself included) have probably not even considered. Certainly makes you understand why Pope John Paul II was so adamant about wanting all of us to be more aware of Mother Mary. Thank you for making these connections for us and reminding us of just how important and loved she was by Jesus and so should be by us, the children of her heart that her son asked her to love for him. You are right, we should love her in return as our mother that he gave us just as he gave her to the disciple.ReplyCancel

  • KerriAugust 26, 2011 - 10:10 pm

    Wow, what a great post. It made me really think about what my relationship with Mary is. Basically, not good enough. Need to get working on that!! Thanks.ReplyCancel

  • SusanAugust 29, 2011 - 7:26 am

    I have cultivated a relationship with both our Blessed Mother and St. Joseph. Mary is the Multiplier of Graces as she brings our intentions and prayers to her son and then brings his response and the graces back to us. I and my sons wear the brown scapular to have that tangible reminder throughout the day that she is with us, praying for us. A wise priest at Catholic FamilyLand (Ohio–the Apostalate for Family Consecration) once told me that the Blessed Mother and St. Joseph love my children even more than I do (how could that be possible?) and to entrust my children to them….and I do and it brings such peace. My children also wear the Miraculous Medal. We embrace the Holy Family including St. Joseph….that would be a great separate posting—we love St. Joseph, the first Eucharistic Adorer and Guardian of the Redeemer.
    Back to Mary…..I love her feast days and our parish will do rosary processions in town in her honor. We have weekly neighborhood rosaries and rosaries with special intentions for the ill or for the reparation of sins of our country.
    Most importantly I have learned to ask our Blessed Mother with the Holy Spirit to aid me in times of conversation or confrontation with someone to use me as the instrument to say the words that the other person needs to hear or will best respond to, to help me be that Light of Christ to someone–especially someone in pain and suffering. I do the same prior to teaching a religious ed class.
    I am a convert to the Catholic faith and prior to my conversion, I was in a “religious” denomination that totally ignored the Blessed Mother and St. Joseph… sad that was…..God chose both of them to be his Mother and his Protector… keep him safe in those early human years, to provide him with that opportunity to truly experience the human condition..and they were the first perpetual adorers…..we have so much to learn from their lives, their AMEN to God, their acceptance of what He asked……I’m sure both Mary and Joseph had different dreams of what they wanted in their lives before God asked them to follow Him….and look how they were rewarded. A lesson for us all…that submitting to God’s will and plan for us will bring us a life so much better than we could ever do for ourselves.
    All for the Sacred and Eucharistic Heart of Jesus, all through the Sorrowful and Immaculate Heart of Mary, in union with St. Joseph….AMEN!ReplyCancel

    • AdrienneAugust 29, 2011 - 9:23 am

      Susan, thank you for the great reply! I was hoping to get some good examples like this, as I am still learning these traditions myself. And thank you for incorporating St. Joseph as well. I have a great idea for a post about him, but it isn’t fleshed out yet. I’ve asked him to show me what he’d like me to share, and instead I keep getting more thoughts on Mary! Guess he’s a gentleman through and through, LOL.ReplyCancel

  • ErikaApril 24, 2013 - 1:39 pm

    Thank you Adrienne for the wonderful ponderings on Mary. I have trouble laying things at Mary’s feet. I tend to place her upon a pedestal that I know I can never attain, but your post here makes me rethink my position. Thank you!ReplyCancel