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The Large Catholic Family Guide to Simple Living

Who doesn’t like the idea of simple living? 

I wasn’t counting on writing a post so soon after Baby Emmie was born because my plan was to write it well before she was born – you know, like any organized person with a large family would plan to do. 

Obligatory Baby Emmie photo

Nope. 

That didn’t happen this time. It also didn’t help that I ran through several other topics I thought I wanted to write about, only to hit dead end after dead end. 

I think it’s somewhat comical that the timing to write about this topic comes on the heels of:

  1. just having given birth two weeks ago and
  2. with a current case of chickenpox making its way through our home

Can you hear my stifled screams at that second point? No? Give it some time. :p 

One thing I’ve admired about friends with large families {and, no, for some crazy reason, I didn’t really consider six kids to be “large family” material. Not sure why, but that’s just me – what can I say? I’m weird} is this almost instinctual inclination toward being more organized. Personally, I didn’t grow up organized, or orderly, or neat. In fact, my kids’ rooms littered with food wrappers and soda cans most definitely comes from me as a kid. It is the bane of my existence and one we attempt to counter with mini marathons of Hoarders. 

What I’ve noticed over the years is that even if you are the most non-organized, least inclined toward living simple, or keeping your house decently clean kinda person, there is hope for you, because there has been a glimmer of hope for me. 

I am here to motivate you and encourage you!

Here are my tips for you that I’ve gleaned from others and learned for myself over the years:

  1. Your home is your sanctuary. I know, I know. You’re laughing. I can hear you. You are looking around at the clothing bomb that went off in your laundry room and the collateral damage that extends down the hallway and into bedrooms and bathrooms {and that’s without mentioning the toys, trash, dirty dishes, and upswept floors!} and you are shaking your head at the silliness of this point. But, it’s true. Your home IS your sanctuary. There is only one way to break through the frustration of the never-ending messes and it has to start with your mental approach to your home, even if/when it looks like the Tasmanian Devil and his crew tore through your house. What can you do? Close your eyes and imagine what your home would look like cleaned and straightened up. Don’t get caught up in the stress of making it happen. Just enjoy your mind’s eye for the moment. We’ll circle back to how later.
  2. Your bedroom is the apex of your home’s sanctuary. You’re still laughing, amiright? That’s ok. We’re still working on that mind’s eye. We won’t look at the random piles of whatever is distracting you from your private oasis – stacks of bills that you cleared off the kitchen counter, or frames that need to be hung or your own laundry bomb that is on your bed and floor. Nope. What can you do? Again, close your eyes and imagine your room and its potential to be inviting when straightened up and cleaned. 
  3. FLYLADY. Circa 2002, I was introduced to FlyLady by my mother-in-law. She kept talking about keeping her sink clean and empty. I thought that alone was impossible. I had two small children and the thought of keeping anything clean as a daily “thing” seemed unreachable. But…I went to the website and signed up for the email alerts. Not born to be domestic either, I was curious to see what kind of magic this FlyLady could work in my life. One thing I’ve learned over the past 15 years is there is no project that can’t be tackled with small, manageable daily goals. And that’s the key to unlocking a simple life. We aren’t focusing on the WHOLE house {the overwhelmingness of the WHOLE house}. We are breaking it down into small steps. What can you do? Visit FlyLady’s website and sign up for her alerts. Already signed up? GREAT!
  4. Customize your daily schedule. Now that you’ve been receiving FlyLady alerts and see how her approach works, don’t be scared to modify it to fit YOUR family. What I learned from FlyLady was the foundation for discovering what works best for MY family, AS my family grew. What works today may not work tomorrow or next month or next year – and that’s ok. FlyLady gave me the tools to use what works and shelve what didn’t. What can I do? Use FlyLady as your foundation and make notes of what works and doesn’t work for your family.
  5. Invest in a GOOD planner. Whether it’s digital or hard copy, having a large family doesn’t *have* to be overwhelming when it comes to knowing who is doing what on what day and whose birthdays are coming up. Three years ago, I put the idea of creating a planner in the prayer hopper and in the summer of 2014, I ignored my family for four straight weeks {only marginally kidding!} creating the Catholic Through The Year planner, which is now available as PDF download and as a paper copy. No matter your choice – digital or paper – make sure you have one that suits YOUR needs. You will thank me. What can you do? Buy a planner, hello! 😉 
  6. Live by the list. Get all that mental clutter OUT OF YOUR HEAD and onto paper or your notes in your phone. If you’re like me, you can easily get overwhelmed trying to “listify” your lists {ok, one for homeschooling, one for everyday chores, household, blog, volunteering, etc.}, but this just confuses things. What can you do? Pour yourself a good cup of coffee and do a brain dump each day for 2-4 minutes. This visual will help you stay focused. Knock out what you can and cross off what gets done. Enjoy the satisfaction of striking through your list. 
  7. Take magnesium. I’m no doctor and I’m not going to convince you that you *must* do this, but let me encourage you to do your own research about the benefits of magnesium with respect to stress and anxiety {even depression including postpartum depression}. After doing some reading, I discovered that a huge percentage of people are deficient in magnesium. After tiring of taking magnesium horse pills and not wanting to spend a lot on calming powders, I found that taking a few grains of Celtic Sea Salt and letting it sit on my tongue for a few seconds before drinking a glass of water several times a day was not only cost effective, but it contained far more minerals than just magnesium. When I was pregnant and in a very heavy depression-like brain fog, taking the salt lifted me out of that fog after a week of diligently taking salt and drinking water only. Ironically, I started taking the salt because a friend recommended it for my pregnancy-induced heartburn. I not only ended up with minimal heartburn {where I normally have heartburn so bad it hurts to eat anything}, I did not suffer any migraine headaches or any headaches of any sort and still have not since I started in July. What can you do? Because this is my own personal experience, I again encourage you to do your own research and come to your own conclusions. Moms of large families – we need our chill, yes? 😉 
  8. Create a financial budget. It’s rare to read about Catholic finances, but the reality is that part of being a good steward of the money that God has given your family {through you and your spouse’s talent} is knowing where everything goes and including a line item for important things like savings, paying off debt, tithing, charitable giving, gas, groceries, etc. As your family grows, it becomes even more paramount to have a solid financial plan in place. If you aren’t talking about money with your spouse, your life can’t move in the direction of simplifying. Ideally, you want to work together on this, but if you are like some couples and can’t, pray for your spouse to come around. It’s really important to know where your money is going and having small financial goals. It can go a long way in alleviating major stresses. What can you do? Pray before you talk about finances – individually and as a couple. Set small, reasonable financial goals. Look into Dave Ramsey. You can’t afford not to talk about money. ::you can purchase my Household Management bundle that includes a financial budget here::
  9. Love what you have. And toss out or donate what you don’t. This point builds on the first two of making your home and bedroom a sanctuary. THIS is how you start to get that sanctuary, friends. What can you do? Two particularly helpful tips from FlyLady that I incorporate even now is 1) you have a large family, so let’s put those bodies to work! Have them grab a plastic grocery bag each. Give them each one room to go through and toss trash away using those bags. This works in the backyard, too, with larger trash bags. They can pick up sticks, broken toys, and trash. 2) If you are in need of decluttering a room, you’ll need two boxes/bags, one that is TRASH and the other is DONATE. Again, you have a large family, so employ their help {in my case, I tend to bribe errm incentivize them with a trip to Sonic or a treat from our junk food closet – they all love ring pops!}. As bags fill up to donate, have runners take things down to the car so it is ready to be dropped off the next time you leave the house. Visit our Pinterest board Design.Home and Design.Organization for some inspiration. 
  10. I’ve recently taken a liking to door wreaths and found this perfect Catholic fleur de lis wood chip wreath over the weekend.

    Curb appeal and yard work on the cheap. This is one step that has always been a favorite as we head into springtime – in Texas, this happens soon! What can you do? I love heading to the local nursery and picking out some bright colored flowers and hanging plants in neutral planters or pick up some bold colored spray paint for your planters and plant some white flowers for balance.  When you have a lot of helpers, the phrase “many hands make for light work” could not be more true. You can follow me on Instagram here.

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That’s all for this post on ways to simplify your life as a large Catholic family! Do you have something to add? I’d love to read YOUR tips in the comments. Maybe your tips will be the inspiration for another post. 🙂 

About Martina Kreitzer

Martina is a cradle Catholic, wife to Neil, and mother to six kiddos here {and three in heaven}– 4/96-6/12. She decided to homeschool the kiddos in 2010 after many years in public schools. She is the creator of Catholic Sistas which focuses on a feminine perspective of the Catholic Faith. The website was the result of an existing camaraderie by the contributors in a Catholic women’s group she created. She is also a Seal of Approval evaluator for the Catholic Writers Guild. Lest you think she spends all her time online, Martina has enjoyed getting out into the community by serving on the Pastoral Council from 2010-2013. She is constantly on the lookout to make her parish as welcoming as the small town she grew up in East Texas. This task is not easy given that St. William is the largest parish in the Austin diocese, serving well over twenty thousand parishioners. She loves Jesus, coffee, bacon, chocolate, photography, more bacon, evangelizing, and the company of those unafraid to use their sense of humor.

  • Molly - Congratulations on baby Emmie, Martina!! She is so beautiful!February 1, 2017 – 9:52 pmReplyCancel

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