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30 Things Every Mother Should Have and Should Know

The other day, a friend posted this article entitled “Turning 30: 30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know” (and this may be the first and last time Catholic Sistas links up the Huffington Post.) My friends and I spent a little while guffawing at how utterly out-of-touch it seemed. Upon further examination, I realized that the list really ISN’T THAT BAD, and does have some valid points and some humor, albeit secular (although I honestly don’t know why you would want a old boyfriend who “reminds you of how far you’ve come” – seems like if he were that bad, better to have never had him in the first place?)

I think the biggest reason we were so turned off by the article is because most of us simply could not relate, at all. While it doesn’t say so explicitly, the article appears to be geared towards women who are single, or at least childless. Most of us married and had  children in our 20s, some of us our very early 20s. Considering the average marrying age for women in the U.S. is 27, and the average age of women having their first child is 24.9, it would seem that WE fit the stereotype of “the average woman” more than the single, childless 30 year old. WE want a list that fits US!

So, without further ado, I bring you The Catholic Moms Edition: “30 Things Every Mother Should Have And Should Know.”

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As a mother, you should have:

1. A husband who is better than any old boyfriend you ever had. Which is why you married him, and not the boyfriend. He must like children and want to have many of his own, with you.

2. A cute diaper bag. Or, an ugly one that came from the hospital and had free formula samples in it. Your old high school backpack works, too.

3. Diapers and wipes inside the diaper bag. Because if you’re missing these, you will inevitably be at a childless relative’s house on Thanksgiving (when all the stores are closed) and you will be fashioning a makeshift diaper out of a Target bag and paper towels.

4. A fully-funded retirement fund. Or children who will be willing to let you live with them when you are old. Or some combination of the two.

5. A bank account. Preferably one with some money in it. And a debit card that has a daily limit that is much higher than $250, for when you buy toilet paper at Sam’s Club.

6. A nice outfit to wear. Must be appropriate to wear both at a baptism and on a date with the hubby. Must be machine washable, in the case of snot or spit-up. Preferably not white. Flattering and slimming a plus. It can be maternity clothing, I won’t tell anyone.

7. A vehicle that fits all your children safely. Working door handles, windows that roll down, and air conditioning: optional. Pro-life bumper stickers: required.

8. A set of screwdrivers and a power drill – I concur with Satran on this one. Screwdrivers for all the toy batteries you’ll be replacing, and a power drill for building cribs and bunk beds.

9. A pretty new pair of pajamas every time you give birth. And Tucks.

10. Lollipops for grocery trips. Or a grocery store that gives out free cheese and cookies. Or both.

11. Patron saints. Lots of them. For yourself, your spouse, your children, and every situation you find yourself in. St. Gerard for difficult pregnancies and safe deliveries. St. Apollonia for teething. St. Dymphna for sleepless nights. St. Monica for wayward teenagers. St. Brigid of Ireland for babies in general, and also for when your dairy cow escapes. (It happens!) Ask these saints to intercede for you, and ask your children’s guardian angels to guide them. Their intercession is powerful!

12. A female friend. This can be your mother, sister, or someone unrelated to you. Someone who will rejoice with you when you are expecting a baby, whether this child is your first or your tenth. Someone who will cry with you when you lose a child. Someone who respects your role as a wife and a mother and always encourages you to do what is good, whether it involves disciplining your children or being faithful in your marriage.

13. A nun friend and a priest friend. Someone who will make religious vocations relatable to your children. Children have their parents as a good example of striving for a holy marriage; they need good examples of holy priests and nuns.

14. A graceful answer for “You’ve got your hands full!”, “Don’t you know what causes this?”, “Don’t you have a TV!?”, and eleventy-billion other comments about your family. (A snappy comeback works, too, as long as it’s said with charity and not bitterness.)

15. A box of Magic Erasers.

 

As a mother, you should know:

1. How to change a diaper in the car. How to change a diaper on your lap, in an airplane, and on a Koala Kare changing table without your child’s skin or clothing actually touching the table.

2. How to gracefully bow out of Mass to change a diaper that has exploded all over your yellow skirt and has now soaked all the way through your slip because it happened during the Consecration and you didn’t want to distract people by getting up right then.

3. That crayons, markers, tissues, pens, Play-doh, scissors, glue, juice boxes, toothpaste, ketchup, scissors, sinks, bubbles, toilets, band-aids, scissors, paper towels, and small plastic beads should always be used under direct adult supervision. And scissors.

4. The number to poison control. If you don’t know it by heart, at least get the fridge magnet.

5. That brushing lots of little teeth every night seems torturous, but 2 hours in a pediatric dentist’s chair with a 3 year old is more torturous.

6. How to get dinner ready in 15 minutes while holding a baby, reading a book to the toddlers, looking something up on the internet, and answering your kindergartener’s fifty-two questions about why owls come out at night and why St. Anthony’s tongue is incorrupt.

7. How to nurse a head wound, how to do CPR, and what to do if your child loses a finger or a toe (hint: stay calm and put it on ice.)

8. That God shows us more mercy about our parenting than we show to ourselves, and that whether or not we gave our child a pacifier has no bearing on our eternal salvation.

9. That motherhood is about little acts of love. We get grace for every action done out of love for God. For every nose wiped, every meal made, every shirt washed, every baby nursed, every tantrum subdued, we “store up treasures in heaven.” (Matthew 6:20)

10. That motherhood is about serving. We serve our children, we serve our husbands, we serve God. It’s often tempting to be repulsed by the amount of serving we must do! It gets exhausting. But we must echo Mary’s “Fiat” rather than Satan’s “Non serviam.” Because we know where he ended up.

11. That motherhood is full of sorrows. While we have Our Blessed Mother as a model for the perfect mother, we also have her as a model for perfect resignation to suffering. Ask Our Lady of Sorrows to comfort you as you carry your crosses in solidarity with her Son.

12. That you made vows to your husband. Nurture your marriage. Your marriage is what will get you to heaven. And your children will someday move away, but you are with your husband “til death do us part.” He has chosen YOU to be his spouse; be the best one you can be.

13. That ALL babies are a blessing, even if they come at what appears to be an exceedingly inopportune time. God’s plan is perfect. A baby came to a poor family who lived in an old jail; her parents named her Bernadette; the Blessed Mother appeared to her 18 times. A baby named Joseph came to a destitute family who lived in a house with a dirt floor; he was one of ten children; he grew up to be the Pope, and is known to us as Saint Pius X. A mother gave birth for the 23rd time to a baby named Catherine, who spent much of her life working for the poor, influenced Popes, and became a Doctor of the Church. Never underestimate God’s power to redeem difficult or seemingly impossible situations.

14. That time is fleeting. Someday we will kiss their boo-boos for the last time. We will pick up the toys, bake a Thomas the Tank Engine birthday cake, read a story four times in a row, kiss them goodnight, all FOR THE LAST TIME. One day they will walk out our door, and the next time they come back, they will have their own home, their own family, and they will no longer be dependent on us. The endless nights of rocking and soothing, the days peppered with whining and tears – they will come to an end. Their littleness is so brief. Embrace it.

15. Why they say life begins when you become a mother.

 

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About Colleen

Colleen is wife to her wonderful husband and Mommy to three little boys and a baby girl. She spends her days sweeping Cheerios, reading stories, and building with Legos. She enjoys sharing her Catholic Faith with others, and trying her best to live out her vocation generously, graciously, fully. She loves the Traditional Mass. She also appreciates anything crafty or chocolatey, and is blessed to reside in the great state of Kansas, which actually is not all black-and-white – she has the red shoes to prove it.

May 2, 2012 - 8:02 am

Rachel Manley - Thanks for this Colleen!! I am so glad you made this list, and you hit the nail right on the head. I love this!!!

May 2, 2012 - 8:46 am

Lisa - Awesome job Colleen!

May 2, 2012 - 9:13 am

Kerri - This was great!! I love #13 in the first part, great advise. And beautiful picture, by the way! :)
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May 2, 2012 - 9:20 am

CA Rhoades - Excellent job! On the things mothers should know list:
#6 made me laugh :) and #14 made me cry!
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May 2, 2012 - 9:24 am

Jen - Love this post! I too am a Catholic mother of three little boys and totally related to #15 on the “Have” list! Great job!

May 2, 2012 - 9:31 am

Mary Sangster - LOVE IT!!! Great list. :)

May 2, 2012 - 10:32 am

Beth - Today God knew this is exactly what I needed to read, because I needed to have a good laugh & the reminder that He does redeem every seemingly impossible situation that motherhood throws our way for good.

May 2, 2012 - 10:59 am
May 2, 2012 - 11:33 am

Stacey - Love it!

May 2, 2012 - 11:37 am

BirgitJ - Great post! The one that hit me the most was #14 in the second list – time is indeed fleeting and I am experiencing that for the second time around with my 7 grandchildren! I joyfully cling to every moment – even when the 4 year old puts dirt all over the hair, including the scalp of the 2 year old and she strips out in the yard and needs a bath and has a poopy diaper and you bathe her in the sink while he sits in timeout so that he can share in your trial…whew, that was just a few minutes ago. LOL
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May 2, 2012 - 12:01 pm

Jeanne - Colleen is brilliant!

May 2, 2012 - 3:54 pm

Holly - Well done, friend!

re: #7, don’t forget the rosary dangling from the rearview mirror!

May 2, 2012 - 5:01 pm

Colleen - @Holly – YES!!! <3

May 2, 2012 - 7:25 pm

Karyn - All I can say for the Huff post’s list is yuck. But yours is funny and poignant and beautiful. And I feel blessed that I can relate to your list more.

May 2, 2012 - 11:55 pm

Misty - Truly inspired. And spectacular advice!!!

May 3, 2012 - 6:45 am

Erin - #12 female friend, invaluable for everything! Ps don’ t put that finger ( or toe) on ice anymore, just scoop it up and go! Just an update from an emergency dispatcher!

May 3, 2012 - 8:38 am

Colleen - @Erin – excellent! Thanks for letting us know. That makes me feel a little more at ease since it seems like we NEVER have ice at our house. ;)

May 9, 2012 - 9:21 am

Amy - Love it!! St. Anthony receives MANY prayers in our house! :)

May 21, 2012 - 8:40 pm

diana hall - Loved this…it was great! Great ideas, suggestions and humor:) I have to agree with Birgitj….the time really flies when they are little….one minute you are changing a diaper and the next…you are renting a tux for the prom….enjoy:)

Peace & Hope

Diana

October 1, 2012 - 11:57 pm

Jennevieve - Beautiful. This made me cry. I will be referring back to this often for encouragement and little reminders of how important and special and fleeting these years are. I knew these things all ready really, but you put them in such a sweet way. Every point was perfect! Thank you!

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